For whatever reason today I find myself just thinking about the ramblings that are here and the many that have never made it here. I question sometimes what the point is exactly of these musings. Maybe that's just me, but it's where I find myself.
I heard something very interesting over the weekend about how we women tend to view ourselves and how much of us is made up in that and we can't shake it because we are women. Made me think of all the people I know, women especially that spend so much time worrying about what the person next to them is thinking about them. When on Earth will we stop focusing so much on ourselves and realize that the odds of the person next to us even thinking about us (in a general public setting) is so close to zero that it's not worth even listing it?
I had the opportunity to speak to someone last night that I don't usually get to and they reminded me of one of the first memories they have of me. First of all I was thirteen when they met me, and God love them, they still like me. They remembered that my hair had been fairly long, not surprising since it kind of went with the territory of family heritage, but that I wanted to have it short. So I had it cut, extremely short, but fashionable for 1993. I loved it and then kept it short all the way through high school. The haircut isn't what matters here, it's that she told me that she was floored because I had said something about I want to have it short even though it had not been so since I was a child, and I just went out and did it without thinking for a second about what someone else might think about my haircut. She told me that was imprinted in her memory and that she wished that she could live completely unabashed of the people around her. Now that's fine when you're thirteen, but in the grown-up world we have to have some sort of tact about us and be mindful of the people around us.
Granted I have a small number of women in my life who love me even when I'm not tactful, and will call me out and tell me to settle down when I need it, and I will do the same for them. None of us is perfect and it amazes me how many people get uncomfortable at the thought of holding another person accountable for something as simple as tact. We'll not hesitate for a second to hold one another accountable if we know we are living a lifestyle outside the teachings of Jesus but claim to follow those teachings, e.g. drinking, smoking, gambling, womanizing, and so on, but we won't call someone out if they behave like a child in a situation, or slander or gossip or___________. Someone please enlighten me as to why this is so hard for people to do? I don't have any trouble with it, even when I'm the one being called out, and I have people around me who are of the same mindset the majority of the time, but I observe people who watch us and are shell-shocked when we dare to tell a peer or friend that they are way off base. Isn't that just as much a part of Jesus' teachings as telling them not to commit adultery? Comments welcomed.
